"What Did I Do To Deserve This?"
Asking this question itself is a direct result of child abuse.
People who have been abused as children tend to blame their misfortunes on themselves, think that they are bad, and are more prone to have negative thoughts that are not true.
I Don't Care Who You Are, You Did Not Deserve the Child Abuse!
I'm here to tell you that you didn't do anything to deserve the abuse and the dreadful consequences of the abuse!
I'm telling you again, you did NOT deserve ANY of it!
There is nothing that the person being abused can do to stop the abuser from abusing them. Why? Because it is THEIR problem! You are not the problem: you are not abuse-worthy or deserving--THEY are abusive! During the abuse you probably believed that you had done something wrong, felt helpless and did not get to think the thought, "I won't take this!". This experience of the feeling is why you sometimes feel extreme guilt and helplessness up to this day in your relationships. But remember that our feelings and thoughts aren't facts! You do not have to believe them!
Don't Be Ashamed Of Talking About It
Whether our abusers are that way because of their own experiences or their pain, we do not know. The important thing is that it was NOT YOUR FAULT and you don't have to be ashamed of talking about it.
Slowly start opening up about your pain to people who will support you and help you turn this mire into gold.
Tell yourself it is NOT your fault. Tell yourself that you can become a beautiful person in spite of what you went through. The world's kindest, most compassionate, and influential people were those who went through such terrible things yet overcame them with faith.
And YOU, can become one of them. You WILL if you believe!
