"4 Reasons Why We Must Let Go of Toxic Relationships"
Toxic relationships have far bigger effects on us than we think. If you've been abused as a child and you've found yourself in your later years being diagnosed with mental illnesses such as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Dissociative Disorder, Personality Disorders, Chronic Anxiety.... You have an idea of how immense the effects of people in our life are. Our success in life does not just have to do with our career and achievements. It depends also hugely on the people we surround ourselves with. Our relationships affect all aspects of our life--our intelligence, how we do at our job, our dreams and our goals...
When I say toxic, I'm talking about people that have a negative influence on you and that don't help you grow and become a better person. Now, when we go through tough times it is natural for us to become more negative. I'm not saying we should let go of our friends during their troubled times. I support you on helping those people and giving them some light. However, there are people that pull you down with themselves. They are bullies and abusers. We MUST cut these people out from our lives much less let go.
And here are the reasons why:
1. Their Influence On Me
They say that your ways is the combination of 5 people you are closest to. No matter your own values and the choice rather to take on their behavior and thinking or not, you inevitably are influenced by those around you. If you want to be an honourable person, surround yourself with honourable people.
2. To Teach Myself That I Deserve Better Treatment
Today I was talking with my friend, Jennifer. Jennifer has known Sally for years. She has been a huge support for her through her rough times of family dysfunction. However, when she comes back from spending time with Sally, she is grumpy, negative, and sarcastic unlike her usual self. Plus, I constantly hear Jennifer talking about how disturbing Sally’s behavior is, and how negatively it is affecting Jennifer emotionally. Nevertheless, she continues to hold onto the relationship, saying that Sally needs her.
Who is the priority of your life? It is YOU! The happiest version of yourself is the greatest gift you can give to this world. And by cutting off toxic people from your life you will be teaching yourself that you deserve better treatment.
3. To Avoid Getting Hurt Further
Getting hurt is part of life and part of having relationships. However, there is the kind of hurt that has long-term effects, that affects our life negatively. This includes abuse and neglect. Take a good care of yourself, and don’t let people hurt you! Instead, surround yourself with people who will take good care of you like you deserve.
4. To Have Quality Life I That I Need
Reaching your dreams is easy: surround yourself with people who share your dreams. Don’t let negative people pull you down from your way up the ladder. If you feel that your life is not going the way you’d like it to, stop and CHECK the people around you. If they do not help you grow and shine your light, then it is time to let go.
If you are still living with a family member that is abusive towards you--physically and emotionally--reach out for help. Tell your school counsellors. Call 9-1-1. Tell your friends how terrible things are for you--do not suppress it and cry alone, there are people out there waiting for you to reach out for help, believe me! They will make sure you are in a safe place and not homeless because you had to run away. CHILD ABUSE IS AGAINST THE LAW. You will be protected by the government ministries.
Letting go of toxic people is a huge factor in improving the quality of your life! Letting them go doesn't mean that you don't care about them, it just means that you care about yourself enough to make good decisions for yourself! It is not being selfish, it is respecting yourself and desiring to shine as brightly as you can in this world that is waiting for you to shine your light on!
Now go do what you need to do!
