"Strategies for Emotional Intelligence"
www.cnvc.org
is a site that that offers tools and skills of Nonviolent Communication that we can use to communicate effectively with others without hurting them or triggering them but saying what needs to be said. I STRONGLY recommend that you check it out, as it has helped me immensely!
1. Check: Are My Needs Being Met?
Our feelings tell us something about our needs and whether they are being met or not.
Positive emotions arise when needs are met, and negative emotions arise when needs are not being met OR PERCEPTION THAT NEEDS AREN'T BEING MET OR CAN'T BE MET.
There are universal basic needs that all of us require for happy living.
These include: security, love, personal growth, recreation, beauty and harmony, stability....
2. Effective Communication To Meet Our Needs
Needs get met through the strategies we use
Every strategy has a cause and consequence!
Ex. Manipulating or yelling to have the kids keep the kitchen orderly
works in short term but NOT in long term, as the kids will not understand WHY you need the kitchen to be orderly!
Instead, use a DIFFERENT STRATEGY:
"I" Statements without judgment ("I feel frustrated when I come into the kitchen and see that it is messy")
"Could you please" Requests
